|"Many people have written about how to survive as a military spouse. The authors of Help! I'm a Military Spouse — I want a Life Too! take it a giant step further. Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer don't only write about how to survive; they write about how to thrive as military spouse."
— Barbara L. Sellers, Northwest Guardian
| Many Dreams, Many
Army spouses offer some skills to help manage the military lifestyle
by Dawn Torres-Gale Contributing Writer Army Newspaper Hawaii Arranging the details of a household move, enrolling children in a new school, interviewing for a new job these are just a few of the practical responsibilities that spouses of military service members face while their loved ones serve the nation.
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|"In times of uncertainty, Hightower and Scherer offer spouses a lifeline as they cope with the day-to-day challenges of military life."
— Dawn Torres-Gale, Hawaii Army Weekly
|Copyright 2007 North Shore Productions|
|You Know You are a Military Spouse When…
by Kathie Hightower & Holly Scherer
As a spouse brand new to military life, you often feel like a “stranger in a strange land.” So many things are foreign. After a few years we see the same things as simply part of our lives and forget that not everyone in America experiences these same things. We’ve asked spouses to share some favorite versions of “You Know You are a Military Spouse When.” Here they are:
• you stand as they play our National Anthem before the start of the movie (and you know you are connected to the military if you are in a theater that plays the National Anthem at the start of a movie!)
• you say 1800 hours instead of 6pm
• you automatically stop your car when you hear the bugle call Retreat, get out and stand straight with your hand over your heart when you hear the National Anthem or To the Colors played as the flag is lowered. (and you know which direction on base/post to face even when you aren’t near the flagpole)
• all your kids, including your two year old stop what they’re doing and put their hands on their hearts whenever they hear the National Anthem.
• you know what someone means when they say “we lived on the economy,” or “we lived in a stairwell.”
• if you ever answer a question with HOOAH!
• you can move your daycare from one state to another and still have the same children enrolled.
• you refer to your bathroom as the latrine.
• you find yourself saying “let’s police up this yard” to your kids.
• you ask someone to hold on a second by saying “stand by”.
• you wake up to the sound of running feet and jody calls outside your window
• you go to sleep with the sound of TAPS playing
• you and your kids have spent at least one Thanksgiving in the Mess Hall (okay, some do call it the Dining Facility but old habits die hard.)
• you don't know your own social security number anymore, but you know your spouses by heart.
• you yell at your kids by saying, “Don’t make me email your father/mother!”And right now, you know you are a military spouse when not a day goes by without you thinking about the war in Iraq, whether or not your own spouse is deployed. Kathie and Holly are coauthors of Help! I'm a Military Spouse -- I Want a Life Too! Information on their book, articles and workshops is at www.militaryspousehelp.com.
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|“In her early years as a military wife, Hightower says she spent a lot of time complaining. In hindsight, every change the Army forced on her — 19 moves over the course of 27 years — turned out to be for the good. ‘But my first 10 years I didn't look at it that way. I was forever saying, why'd they do this to me?’”
— Debbie Cafazzo, The Tacoma News Tribune